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Tuesday, July 8, 2014

survival divorce 6

SURVIVAL DIVORCE 6

Apocalypse Treatment

Half of this booklet is about the burden of divorce ( hey, I need to pad a five hundred word article some way to expand it ). You should about now be terrified and bummed out and not very happy with me for charging you a price to tell you all this. So let me make this up to you. Let me tell you why it is stupid to NOT get a divorce. You were worried about the collapse, right? But she wasn’t. She fought you at every turn, denying you even the very basics like a six month supply of rice for the two of you or a few boxes of ammo. Remember, females don’t think like you. To you, it is logical to prepare. To a fem, it is illogical to give up control of the budget because in her mind that is what is helping you survive now ( and no, you can’t just use the reduced budget argument. Status is just as important as money. This is why a five hundred dollar coffee table is important to her, even if you would love to have five buckets of wheat covered with plywood and a tablecloth for a coffee table. To her, giving up status is as impossible as you giving up sex ). So, it is a losing battle on the preparedness front. This is most of the reason you want to divorce the bitch. With her, you all die as a family unit. Without her, you can save the kids.

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But if you do keep her, when the apocalypse happens, she is going to get much worse than before. Impossible! You proclaim? No. Before, she hated you and used you. After, she will despise you and kill you. Allow me to explain. She won’t allow you to prep. Yet, when the collapse happens, she will expect to be provided for ( despite wailing about being independent before ). You can’t do an “I told you so”, it ain’t gonna cut any ice. She will expect results, not excuses ( kind of like that jerk you work for in Corporate- they set you up for failure and then blame you for not repealing the laws of physics ). Suddenly, you Become The Man and must protect them with nothing and provide them with supplies you couldn’t stockpile. When this isn’t forthcoming, she will move on to the most promising replacement. And most likely you will be removed With Extreme Prejudice both to remove an extra mouth to feed and to be removed as a threat. Her refusal to prep will get you killed. And ironically, she will suddenly, in this new relationship, to submissive and obedient. She wouldn’t do that with you, which would have avoided the problem, but she’ll do that with the new guy. Because He Can Provide And Protect, And You Couldn’t. Not that that was HER fault! You should have insisted! This is how gals think. If you had insisted, divorce. Because you would have not been a Provider by spending all the money on preps ( never mind you were being a Protector ). Hey, I don’t make the rules. Better just to Ditch The Bitch than put up with all that.

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30 comments:

  1. Boy, I've been married for 24 years and I'm a girl. But, this post would have even scared me off marriage!

    I have lived in the backwoods for 20 years, and most of my friends are from the nearest little town and from church (LDS) that maintains a lot of traditional gender roles. So let's just say I don't get out much. Is it really that bad out there when it comes to male/female relationships?

    Idaho Homesteader

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    1. Think of it as middle class having no clue what goes on in the ghetto- that should compare nicely. Everyone for themselves- thank your gods for your bubble ( and I'm sure it's been going on for more than 20 years )

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    2. Is it really that bad? If my experience of all the guys down the pub crying in their beer is anything to go by, I'd go so far as to say it's worse.

      It's their own fault though, they never put their foot down once with them ever in their lives. And the shit that comes out their ex's mouth towards them is to be heard to be believed.

      My wife tried the "If I don't get my own way, I'm leaving you" thing in the early days of the marriage (27 years now). I went upstairs and packed her bags and threw it out the door, along with her and shut the door behind her. That nipped that in the bud straight away.

      Another one was "I've got 3 brothers". They've all got clever at some point over the years, and they've all declined the offer to step outside and discuss it like gentlemen.

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    3. I like your attitude. Industrial Economy Man is indeed a bunch of wimps ( I include myself of course ).

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  2. Hey Mr. Dakin.

    I was an industrial worker. Laid off. Run out of unemployment benefits. Evicted from house. Could not find work anywhere. Savings almost gone.( $ 300.00 left). What's a man to do?.
    Simple . I own my motor home and my scooter. Had to park it in a avocado farm while I pick them. Not a full time job but it gives me a place to park the beast and live in there. The owners do not mind that I do that. Don't make much but is survival. A fellow migrant worker is teaching me his trade that he practiced while living abroad. I will eventually get my license to practice it here in this wonderful land of the free. Cant tell you what it is (don't want competition) but is a legit practice. Don't make much doing it but is another source of income. I'm also looking into the possibility of doing mechanical work. Something like backyard mechanic. It pays to do honest work and don't rip-off the customers. Charge reasonably and you will always get a handful of customers.
    Lost everything in the divorce. She got the mine and I got the shaft.
    I guess divorce survival is one of the most common besides the loos of jobs.



    If you buy a gun, make sure that it pays itself when you hunt a buck and share the meat among the people that pitch in.

    I'm sure there are other ways to succeed and beat the losses.

    Keep witting I'm too new in your blog but I been reading it a lot.

    Raggedy man

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    1. And don't forget my last blog "james m dakin.blogspot.com" for even more priceless gems.

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  3. Top post. This has been my experience as well. You warn your wife about something...and then it's still your fault when it goes wrong. For some reason women are Simply Incapable of saying the words,
    "Gosh, you were right. If I'd ONLY listened to you!"
    Not that I'm bitter or anything...

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    1. If they admitted he was right, then that argument could be used against her in future. Also, Alpha Males suffer the same issue.

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  4. The shit women will say after it's over is incredible.
    How about:
    "it's your fault im fat - you never told me I was fat, so I just kept eating".
    "it's (partially) your fault I got breast cancer (2 years later) - drinking alcohol is a factor".
    or this one really grabbed me:
    "just be thankful I didnt get it all".

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    1. Love that last one! Yes, they are indeed being kinder than they "have" to be.

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  5. Observations are spot-on as my second wife trolls for a new husband using her Sutter Medical Foundation (SMF) position as a base.

    Just waiting for the 3 kids to get a bit older. Been through this before in FL with the 1st ex (like you but worse) so this ain't my first rodeo.

    Women are she-devils !

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    1. But to be honest, guys aren't much better. Easier to control, granted, but still at heart assholes.

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    2. Perhaps Jim, but the laws favor the illogical gender.

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    3. Oh, how I hear you, brother.

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    4. If guys would stop thinking with their dicks this all wouldn't be a problem. Yes, the human race might die out, but .....

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    5. Remember? Sex And A Sandwhich. It isn't our fault we are programmed this way, it is bitches fault for not playing on our weakness. Why make an issue of it when it is easier to give us our Happy Pill regular like? Its like wanting to poke the bear with a sharp stick instead of just sharing dinner with it.

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  6. Jim, "Lord of the Magnificent Hair", this divorce survival series is really getting the comment count up. Seems like you have more readers than you thought.

    I too have been down the divorce road more than I care to admit. Its amazing how much people change, both men and women. Yes the courts lean towards women but that is because they want to provide for the kids. My prior divorce I kept the kids and all was good, till I remarried. Then the ex pumped the kids full of anti-step-mom crap to cause stress in my life. Some of it remains today. It is truly evil to use the kids. That one could give your worst ex a run for your money. Some of the crap she tried to pull in court was insane. Only thing that saved me was the judge caught her in a lie. That and the fact that I've knocked back a few beers with the judge over the years. LOL

    I have no plans of remarrying ever but I will likely live with someone. "Shack up" sounds crude but the term fits the bill. I will keep whats mine. Also No more kids in my life. Getting to old for that. I'm thankful that the big head is gaining some control over the little head these days. Hopefully I can make better decisions. Already am..

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    1. I know, I really can't believe the response. My count went up around 50% ( well, for some reason. I only check stats about every third month or so ). Hope it stays.

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    2. Could be the new format too. I check in twice a day now as many others likely do. This is a good format. Don't ever stop. We'd all have to go through withdrawals.

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    3. As long as I'm not getting laid, I have the rage/drive. If I can find one that doesn't envy my hair to the point of repulsion, all bets are off.

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  7. What is it with men these days? Hey, I'm not immune to to having my heart broken/head fucked same as the next man, but FFS come on. The older you get (speaking personally) the wiser you get (or at least should do).

    OK, I'm a Limey, but I'm a Yorkshireman (look it up) not one of these shandy drinking southern nancys.

    Here's my secret, it's carrot and stick, put your foot down, kids are always on your side (even if they're not yours), once in a while (not birthdays/anniversaries/valentines day, that sort of thing) get flowers sent to them at work (out the blue like). It sickens the rest of the bitches I'm telling you.

    Half the problem is other silly bitches filling their head with crap. You know the shit, "My husband wouldn't dare tell me what to do" kinda thing. Give them the ammo, and they'll do you proud. They get a bunch of flowers, and it's (Rubs flowers in their face) "Yeah but your husband doesn't send you flowers, oh and your last 4 ex's hate your guts.."

    They come home floating on a cloud, yeah you're gonna get the "Why the flowers, what have you done?" thing, but give it the "Why nothing, I just love you". Never fails...

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    1. I think as long as the carrot and stick are consistant, all is well. When you understand what not to do, it never becomes an issue. I guess we all got used to pushing all boundries. Rushing down the road to All Reward No Responsability.

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  8. WHAT!!!???

    Idaho Homesteader is A GIRL???!!!

    Pretty true what you guys are saying about women in general. On the other side, look at the high (90 plus) percentage of pukey fuc*head guys out there. Beer and football. Mommy's boys.

    YKW
    MM

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    1. Yup. A female survivalist. There are a few who exist. : )

      Idaho Homesteader

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  9. Marriage 2.0 is a bad deal for any man Jim. Name any other business contract (Which is exactly what marriage is) where you have to continue to pay out to your partner long after they stopped fulfilling their end of said contract for any reason of choice? (The sex almost always stops soon afterward, which is the first violation. Oh she's still having it, just not with you).

    Your children, are her children {along with half of your property, assuming that you're lucky?) But you still get the luxury of paying for the little bastards as if you have them fulltime. Unless of course, one considers paying for their children fulltime, but only having access to them two weekends a month, still having them? I consider it paying for visitation.

    I understand the need for companionship, but good god man; think twice before you sign another contract, and ask yourself why it's so necessary? Nothing wrong with living with someone; it's quite accepted these days. But a word of advice if you do so. Stash all of your weapons, short of your main defense gun, and not all in the same place. One call from the cops saying that she "feels threatened" and your guns are gone. And you would be surprised at how many times I've seen this happen.

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    1. I always said #2 loved sex- just with anybody else but me. ME! Size 11 shoes!

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  10. How is a marriage like a Hurricane?

    In the beginning there's a lot of moaning, blowing, and sucking, but in the end you lose your home :D


    What's the most effective form of birth control?

    Wedding cake :D

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  11. For every 10 relationships I have seen that has tanked I have seen 1 that have stood the test of time. Oddly those that have the tanked relationships often get soon after meeting their new 'soul mate', and then move on to the next relationship in less than 5 years (again usually marrying the new 'soul mate').
    Some one called it once 'serial monogamy'. If you have gotten divorced once, that is fine, mistakes happen. If it happens twice you have a problem (it might lie with you, it might lie with who you are choosing to be with.) no more marriage until you get that issue worked out. Me I can count on my fingers all the lovers I have had- and on one hand all the serious relationships. Married? once - and still going strong almost two decades later. Best friends, common interests, disdain of drama, common goals, chemistry, comfortable enough to fart in front of each other but wanting to 'dress to impress' each other on a regular basis, and willing to sacrifice for the other.

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    1. It took me four divorces to realize it is indeed all their fault

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