prepper partners and procreation

PREPPER PARTNERSHIPS AND PROCREATION

Note: Look for a Saturday post tomorrow.  Too good of writing to throw away, nonetheless not really a worthy entry for a weekday.
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As per Idaho Homesteaders last of the previous list of article ideas ( thanks, sister! ), the pros and cons of dating as a prepper.  How do you tell them and what if they have kids?  Now, I must admit, I might not be the best person to give advice on this.  Not because I’ve been old school in my relationships of one a lifetime, but because I have a very good “cheat” I use.  I never lead with, “Hi, I’m a crazy rat bastard and I think the world is going to end and I expect you to listen to me ranting about gas masks and freeze dried foods”.  Rather, I just explain that a lot of my time and effort are devoted to my “real” ( but not very well paying ) job of writing.  This accomplishes several things.  It explains my lack of career ambitions.  It tells her first thing that I’ll be busy with a second job and I can’t just sit around scratching my ass waiting at her beck and call.  It shows how hard working I am.  And, when she asks the inevitable What Do You Write About, I can painlessly ease into explaining about prepping for the Apocalypse.  The one relationship I had when I DIDN’T do this, I was never able/allowed to prep.  All those following that ( the dreaded Ex #2, for those of my long time readers that remember ), prepping was never an issue ( and neither was whether they had kids or not.  I also told them I wrote about frugal living, so they knew I was cheap, and hence I was able to contribute to the household and their kids financially with much lower expectations-I could still be a primary breadwinner, they just had to live my lifestyle ).

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Actually, dating as a prepper is so much easier than being married first, then becoming a survivalist.  Dating is just in essence a series of interviews and you as a whole package are being evaluated.  In a job interview, if the boss is okay with a request such as “I can work anytime but I need Friday afternoons off to visit my mother in the nursing home”, they don’t necessarily like it but they will go along with it because of all your other positive traits.  Same with a Mating Interview.  Not everything you do needs to be received at a 100% enthusiasm rate.  The whole package is what matters.  If you “dress up” your prepping, like I did, the “sell” is easy ( of course, I think my size 11 boots make up their minds first, but I could be wrong ).  This is where the advice on winning over a reluctant spouse is actually going to work ( in a marriage, you have one of two kinds of mates.  One, they jockey with you for dominance.  You’ll never be allowed to prep so go read my book on Survival Divorce.  The other one is a partnership where your needs are given consideration.  Selling prepping will never work on the first and on the second you shouldn’t need to sell ).  Just soft sell the whole thing, or camouflage it.  You know, like “being into camping” or “enjoying shooting” or “working towards a homestead for a tree hugging lifestyle”. 

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This is a great idea not because lying is a good idea ( lying is like losing your virginity-it can’t be undone and you can’t go back ) but because, HELLO!  You are dating.  If it doesn’t work out you don’t need some crazy bitch telling all her friends where to go with their crackhead boyfriends for collapse supplies.  In my case I can kind of relax as my preps don’t look much like anything other than one step above a junkyard ( plus, I don’t blab until we’ve reached the point we both know it is Bumping Uglies time, by which time we know it is going to be a relationship.  I’ve never done One Night Stands ).  Don’t lie, just wait for the conversation.  Before they’ve committed, but after they want to.  If you are twenty years old and have raging hormones, none of this will work.  You are still hopeless.  But for the rest of us who can date and mate more responsibly, I think you can relax about the whole thing as long as your timing doesn’t suck.

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