I know we’ve covered this many times before and I hope I’m bringing something new to the table here. Namely, your spouse supporting your prepping probably doesn’t actually give two craps about prepping. Most of the time the discussion on “bringing the spouse on board” involves instruction and rationalization. This is usually not going to work. When your wife tells you, “you know, I think you are on to something. Things are getting very scary out there”, you shouldn’t hurt yourself congratulating yourself. Your wife isn’t now a prepper, nor was she ever going to be. She is just being a good wife.
Guys think in terms of competition. In a group, the best, most rational thought out plan is approved and applauded. Why, look, our intrepid war leader has a damn skippy good plan! Let’s follow him into battle. Girls think cooperatively. Yes, they are IN competition. Don’t ever drop your guard there. But they don’t ACT competitively. They act cooperatively even as they compete against others. Men can be persuaded to cooperate by out performing them in an important task. Women are compelled to form a consensus even if they are always jockeying for position at the same time.
You can use logic and reason on men, because intellectual competition is utilized and respected. Women don’t respect intellect unless it is from the alpha male, and then she doesn’t look at it as logical but as dominant. It doesn’t matter if the argument which won is logical, just that it is a dominant idea. This is not to say women are stupid. Both sexes have strengths and weaknesses which compliment. Being logical doesn’t even mean you are smart. It can simply mean that you can use flawed data and think you’ve solved a problem. Women have far superior “Spidey senses”, as one example of how each gender dominates different skills.
Women form consensus because it solves problems, women problems. Okay, we need to hook up couples for smoother group dynamics, who gets paired with whom? Women are in charge of harmonious group living ( which includes punishing the uncooperative ). Guys are in charge of offense and defense. Who has superior tactical skill? Who has superior strength? The way men and women are programmed is neither good nor bad, it just works. It is what it is. None of this is judgmental.
Women are chameleons by nature. How else do you form group cooperation if you are combative or competing? No, you form the same thinking as the group ( the competition with women is completely Machiavellian and beyond the comprehension of mere males, and is to see who leads forming the consensus. She then makes a good mate for the alpha male, either helping the husband advance or showcasing her talents to a prospective mate ). When you are a chameleon, you blend in with whatever group you are in. Logic has no place here.
Women have evolved their survival traits by going along to get along. This is true in the tribe, with a mate, or with a once enemy tribe. She does what is good for her current group, what helps her husband or what helps the group that kidnapped her and made her one of them. All that post-apocalypse fiction out there that is so focused on differentiating good from evil, showcasing how bikers and escaped inmates rape women as a career or entertainment, completely lose sight of any history not approved by His Holiness. No, rape isn’t okay. Yes, it was normal and will be again. War brides were so normal women evolved to deal with forced relocation.
Which, logically, is little different than arranged marriages ( except the latter has civilizing lipstick applied to the pig ). Look, I don’t try to excuse or condone or encourage poor behavior. I merely try to point out that you must deal with what will be rather than what you want to be. ANY tribe has illogical customs that are irrational but work to ensure the tribes survival. Religion is a tribe. A LOT of what religions do is NOT because of words from God but are rather politics. Don’t let church doctrine blind you to reality. And, please, be real, you need to be true to God, not to his earthly representatives. The church might claim biblical infallibility but they might also be lying about it. Not convinced? Priests and choir boys. ‘Nuff said.
Now, since women will tell anyone what they want to hear, to protect themselves, modern romance marriages STILL look a lot like being a war bride, as far as brain programming is concerned, to the female. You like to eat the brains of your enemy? YUM! You think this full body fabric makes me look sexy? Hmmmm, it kind of IS turning me on, too! You think the world is ending? I’ve noticed that too! Now, if none of this sounds familiar, it is because you have a terrible wife. A good wife cooperates and seeks consensus. If she is in open rebellion against you, your marriage is doomed.
Before, I’ve said that if the wife keeps refusing you sex you might as well get divorced now because she despises your very being ( I’ve been there, believe me ). If your wife likes sex with you, it isn’t because your junk is of magnanimous girth. It is because she has accepted you as a mate and has switched her brain programming. The same technique that drives her wild today will repulse and sicken her if she then rejects you. Really, that orgasm is all in her head. If you are worthy, if you are accepted, you then turn her on. The same goes for all other aspects.
Here is a fun filled fact. A women will actually see her sexual attraction influenced by her Time Of The Month. The less satisfied she is with her partner, the more she has hormonal flares attracting her to a more evolutionary suitable mate. Yes, they’ve done studies. If you know when the wife is on her period, and she is less attracted to you then and is “out with her friends” a lot at that time, she could be boning a more alpha male. Not her fault, it’s the brain chemistry. This allows her, historically, to keep her provider while still trading up on her offspring.
When a female tells her mate what he wants to hear, it isn’t manipulation or incongruous. She really believes it ( just like a guy really honest injun loves the gal he is allowed to bed ). She doesn’t mean it, but she believes it. Nothing wrong with that, and it might actually make it easier for the female to accept the collapse when it comes ( the guy has logically accepted the end, but not emotionally ). Just don’t confuse your ability to convince your mate when you are just riding the coat tails of natural programming.
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* By the by, all my writing is copyrighted. For the obtuse out there
Well put Jim. Women have been inserted into h.r. departments and many middle management positions just because of their mallebility to the company dogma. And males were pushed aside to limit any alpha male traits from appearing to challenge senior management, though their male instincts were with the intent to help the company program be successful. This has hurt many organizations (business, education, government, military, on, and on, etc.) Now we have a neutered society that is borderline disfunctional and the motto of the day is: Mediocracy! Yeah!ReplyDelete
BORDERLINE dysfunctional? I think you'll been huffing off the optimism glass pipe, yo.Delete
The border line between dysfunctional and totally broken. Maybe that's the borderline that is being referred to. Although I think we are on the other side from dysfunctional now in most places...Delete
The other side if dysfunctional-I love it!Delete
Good article. I think minions should take this topic into account come collapse time. The partner your with must be on board like a real strong 90 percent or better both cooperatively, and deeply mentally. Otherwise that partner,(and off spring/attached family) could real quickly become a liability or drag on your SURVIVAL / STAYING ALIVE. (emphasis added as this is that serious) If your enjoying the sex, cooking, companionship now in the easy good times, good on you, live it up. Have a plan "B", it is not selfish, just shrewd and wise, as staying alive kinda takes precedent over notions of domestic appearances.ReplyDelete
I think most folks not punished by divorce or a fight over an inheritance have zero clue how dangerous family is. And then if they do get experience, they excuse it like they do politicians. I think this will be an article.Delete
Yes article on your new-next mortal enemy, your spouse, domestic partner, family, good times drinkin buddies etc. Title it 'traitors in your bed'.Delete
Titled "nonstranger danger". I thought I already used that one but I can't find it. I just stuck with family. It will be out in a week, let me know how you'd like it expanded if that is the case. It isn't being critical, it is fodder for more articles.Delete
@ anon 11:53 ---- Dude, remind me not to drink with you if you're going to lump "good times drinkin buddies" and "in your bed" in the same thought.Delete
But then again, you did buy the beer, we are friends & it is TEOTWAWKI
Ha! Any port in a stormDelete
James, do you ever entertain the thought that you are casting your pearls before the swine? After all, between praying to a sky daddy and measuring their dick with how many guns they have, you are not exactly addressing an intellectual demographic! I understand that obviously you must be making a few bucks off them because you don't strike me as the type that needs his ego stroked! If this gets everyone's itsy bitsy feelings all butt hurt just feel free to delete my comment to cut down on the fucktard traffic.ReplyDelete
I don't need my ego stroked as far as agreement, per se, as long as my musings are in fact read. Am I casting pearls before swine? A lot of times, perhaps. But I just remind myself I was one of those swine for a very long time. I was a slow learner. I denied. How can I begrudge others the same? You are harsh, and I understand the life long cynic in you-it is justified. But you can't pass blanket judgement when so many can be saved just by finding the argument that tears down their programming. Programming they are really not responsable for, yes? One year ago today was my first day of freedom from employment. I should hang my head in shame it took me so long to see that as an issue. Throwing stones in glass houses and all.Delete
What, really wtf? Please elaborate.Delete
Cooperation between spouses against threats from the outside is the line between a successful relationship and a broken one. If there is dispute in front of or about an outside threat the relationship is headed for hard times if it can survive at all. If dispute is hidden until after the threat passes, the relation can weather the argument.ReplyDelete
If you want to bring a spouse in to assist or at least accept the prepping, put it in terms of cooperating to ensure security of the people in the relationship and the closest family.
Last sentence, isn't that kind of falling back on using rational argument, though? I think you are on to something, I'm just unsure about rationalizing being successful.Delete
The biker bad guys are the cliché bad guys in post apoc fiction.ReplyDelete
The truth of the matter will more than likely see people you currently are forced to associate with being the bad guy. Many people are law abiding only because of the consequences of not following the law, not because doing the right thing is the right thing to do
And regular people got the numbers, not the bikers.Delete
Yup, we can certainly understand why long term relationships with women are difficult for you. One must accept that women are not men and look at the world somewhat differently than us neanderthal men. Yet at the same time, become of one mind in long term relationships.ReplyDelete
Once a guy starts thinking with the big head and ignores that nagging little fucker down below...yeah I know. He's a persistent little devil. Soon you'll be old enough to comprehend that women lose that urge with age.
Or be single , and old lol