Thursday, March 5, 2015

frugal living 26


FRUGAL LIVING 26

RELATIONSHIPS

I am one of the worlds worse relationship advice sources possible, at least if you want a healthy one.  I am one of the best as far as being paranoid and alerting you of danger, but even I’d be one of the first to admit that the relationship you get out of that would largely be a self-fulfilling prophesy.  I’ll just say this, before we get into frugal living and relationships.  Don’t bed a gal unless you expect to support her and her child for twenty years.  Whether you will be with her, or help raise your offspring, is beyond your control.  If she isn’t a lying low-down satanic snake, good for you.  You won the lottery.  Look, all I’m saying here is that if you get into any relationship, you must know you are rolling the dice and you might lose.  I know I have “idiot” or “sucker” tattooed on my forehead, at least in an ink discernable only to females ( because, believe me, when I look in the mirror all I see is pretty ), but I can’t be the only schmuck out there.  When you reward a behavior, you get more of it.  And females are today quite well rewarded to play the Suffering Victim Card, so don’t be surprised if one turns herself into one, even if it takes some contortioned moves ( I understand that there are a minority of fems out there who get screwed over.  But I’d imagine there are very few of you.  Mostly, you got cheated on.  If you were hit, and you are still with the guy, it is your own fault.  If you are smart, you bought a copy of “Burning Bed”, and brought that home with a quart of charcoal lighter fluid and a Bic lighter.  If you’re worried about him using that on you, just snip his brake lines.  The future new boyfriend from work can show you how if you ask him after rubbing his crotch and showing him some cleavage.  The one thing most likely that will never happen is you lose your kid and 75% of your wages most of your life, so by rights this is only directed at guys ).

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Now, I know even after all of that, you guys are still in full rut and so will be all over any willing female showing the slightest interest.  That is just the nature of guys.  We roll like that.  We are so easy to control, I have about zero compassion for gals who claim otherwise.  You all must be REALLY bad in bed if you can‘t use sex to control your man.  I’m talking corpse like stillness, looseness akin to a deflated balloon and the imagination of a coma victim.  Damn, I just described the last three wives ( sadly, I’m serious ).  So the question before us is, will I still be able to have a girlfriend after I start living frugally.  By my experiences, it doesn’t seem likely.  BUT.  As I said, my experiences are a tragedy,  so listening to me might be skewing the data.  I’m inclined to believe your chances do not change.  If you are a stud in town, you will probably be in the country.  Maybe.  How the hell could I know?  I’ve overachieved half the time, finding partners that should have been out of my league, and then underachieved after that.  I have zero clues about women after thirty years and four marriages.  If I did, would you be reading this for free?

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Many women are only looking at your ass to see the thickness of your wallet.  Others won’t care.   Your odds of attracting one shouldn’t change if you have a lot less money, more likely the TYPE of women might change, and you might be having trouble finding that new type rather than being an unattractive prospect altogether ( I’m pretty sure the ladies always find us, contrary to our egos ).  Like socioeconomic types attract.  I can’t guarantee anything, but I’d advise you to not worry overly much about the prospects of a relationship in your new lifestyle ( reminding you, again, about how much this particular advise is worth ).  I won’t go into dragging a current relationship with you against her will.  For that, read my book “Survival Divorce”.  Just beware giving up that fight, because now she owns you ( if you need, you bleed.  Neediness is your number one track to failure with females.  Of course you NEED sex.  You just need to let her know you don’t need it from her ).  If she won’t go, won’t embrace frugality, you are better off starting with another relationship.  If you are scared you won’t find another women out there, your life is now out of your control and the current fem owns you.  Work two jobs for all her credit cards, sign over your paychecks to her, and get ready to die young and in pain from stress and blue-balls ( she despises you for your weakness- you think she is going to uncross her knees for a worm like you? ).

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Or, just pretend you never read this section.  I know how to live damn cheap.  I don’t much know women.

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20 comments:

  1. I was planning to marry my partner in sex after she told me about the pregnancy.
    My mother (a nurse) stop me from doing it. She said wait until the baby is born.
    My mom took a sample of the baby's DNA and mine . Send it to the DNA lab and sure enough there was no link to that baby and me.
    I'm living on my own and enjoying a different lady every 6 months to a year. my cells are telling me *get married* But, on one hand I'm missing a chance for a family. On the other I will be missing a great sex life.


    Well, "bull shit". I don't want to change diapers and or pay child support, alimony and lose a house.

    Thank you Sir Bison. Great Advice..

    I will buy you a beer when or if I ever go to Elko.

    Great post.

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    1. What is better, knowing wisdom first or learning wisdom the hard way? I'm not sure if I'm a dumbass naturaly and grew out of it. Or not.

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  2. Never say thank you to anyone, especially your wife, ever.
    Get your head around the mindset of such a thing and you're halfway there, and that's all you'll ever be with any woman worth having around, halfway. After 32 years of *blissfullness* I've told her thanks maybe 1/2 a doz times and it was after she went so far out of her way to please me that to have not said it would have been grounds. FWIW, somewhere in my mid 50's the whole "want of pussy" thing turned 180 degrees for me, which aligned with her major change so that I don't want it but she does and I don't care. At this point she has more to lose than me.

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    2. I still want it, the only differance being I can now, first time ever, decline acting totally retarded to get it. I'm too nice of a guy, a defense mechanism ( at least until I can substitute that with a 357 slug ), so I don't know if I could ever not say Please And Thank You.

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  3. Been sayin please n thank you to each other since 78, worked for us. Still do.

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    1. "Please, may I have sex?"
      "No, but thank you for your inquiry"

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    2. Yup ...something like that

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  4. This is a true story. Years ago I told a preacher the bible lied. God made woman for his own play thing but it never acted right. So he gave Woman to Men and has laughed at how crazy they have drove us since the garden of Eden . The old preacher looked at me and said . As an ordained man of god your opinion is wrong !!! As a married man of 42 years I understand how you have come to think this way.

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    1. That is brilliant. And disturbingly feasable.

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  5. Relationships are a lottery. I know one that lasted 19 years with hardly a debate, much less actual argument, then, year 20 they both flip and go psycho on each other.
    I've had one nearly as long sure some debates and even arguments- but nothing that mattered much to us in the long run.
    But we have more in common with each other than with anyone else we know- and we almost always prefer to be near each other than apart- and have for decades now.
    The marriage didn't happen until we and everyone we knew thought we were an old happily married couple, and we knew we wanted kids (no bastards here).
    We have few divergent views on any important life issues, and the few divergent views we do have we have been able to talk through reasonably and make accommodation- and the divergence is NOT diametrically opposed.
    We also have a willingness to go along with the others stupid ideas- even at huge cost to either of us (I.E. "move to BFE?!?!?"" build a tiny cottage UNDERGROUND?!?!?!?" "Raise chickens for eggs, and goats for milk?!?!?!""explain please - hmm. Fine honey we'll give it a go.") And no, the listed examples are _not_ all my ideas. :-D
    Yeah.
    I won the lottery. But the women are out there looking too. They want someone who can rock their world on occasion, look good on their arm without drowning them out, who can listen to their woes, and offer help only when they want it. Some one to partner with until they are old and grey. See the beginning of the movie UP- that is what a good woman wants to have.

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    1. God, they don't want much, do they?

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    2. Just about the same as a reasonable rational guy actually. Oh, sure guys have different emphasis, and care far less about having kids usually- but nothing in the list of what women want isn't on the list of what a lot of guys want.
      Note the colliery of 'good woman' and 'reasonable rational guy'. Far to many not good not reasonable ration persons ADD stuff to the list and have higher than possible expectations on each of the items listed. I.E. a girl that wants drama, a guy that wants to fill in the list items with different women, etc.

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    3. Okay, but won't guys SETTLE for less? I don't know, perhaps I'm so busy admiring my hair in the mirror, I just don't pay enough attention to them.

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  6. “So the question before us is, will I still be able to have a girlfriend after I start living frugally.  By my experiences, it doesn’t seem likely.”

    I think that you're right here James, unless a guy finds that one in a million female, and what are the odds? The one exception might be if one resides east of the Mississippi in one of those pockets where the surplus of females exist. That Simple Solar Homesteading dude has (Or at least had; don't know the current status?) a sweet deal. His girlfriend swung by for weekends and left for the week to go back to the city for work. But I suspect that only a very few guys will be so lucky?

    Accept living the life of a loner as did Richard Proeneke, and you won't be as disappointed.

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  7. Check out this very interesting article.

    http://fivethirtyeight.com/datalab/are-republicans-or-democrats-more-likely-to-survive-the-apocalypse/

    -Novice

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  8. IMHO:
    For the book, I would cut down the chapter to the bare bones, or just insert a summary of it as a sub chapter.

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    1. What the heck, it is all the same price, short or long ( that's what she said! )

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