spouse support

SPOUSE SUPPORT

I know we’ve covered this many times before and I hope I’m bringing something new to the table here.  Namely, your spouse supporting your prepping probably doesn’t actually give two craps about prepping.  Most of the time the discussion on “bringing the spouse on board” involves instruction and rationalization.  This is usually not going to work.  When your wife tells you, “you know, I think you are on to something.  Things are getting very scary out there”, you shouldn’t hurt yourself congratulating yourself.  Your wife isn’t now a prepper, nor was she ever going to be.  She is just being a good wife.

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Guys think in terms of competition.  In a group, the best, most rational thought out plan is approved and applauded.  Why, look, our intrepid war leader has a damn skippy good plan!  Let’s follow him into battle.  Girls think cooperatively.  Yes, they are IN competition.  Don’t ever drop your guard there.  But they don’t ACT competitively.  They act cooperatively even as they compete against others.  Men can be persuaded to cooperate by out performing them in an important task.  Women are compelled to form a consensus even if they are always jockeying for position at the same time. 

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You can use logic and reason on men, because intellectual competition is utilized and respected.  Women don’t respect intellect unless it is from the alpha male, and then she doesn’t look at it as logical but as dominant.  It doesn’t matter if the argument which won is logical, just that it is a dominant idea.  This is not to say women are stupid.  Both sexes have strengths and weaknesses which compliment.  Being logical doesn’t even mean you are smart.  It can simply mean that you can use flawed data and think you’ve solved a problem.  Women have far superior “Spidey senses”, as one example of how each gender dominates different skills.

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Women form consensus because it solves problems, women problems.  Okay, we need to hook up couples for smoother group dynamics, who gets paired with whom?  Women are in charge of harmonious group living ( which includes punishing the uncooperative ).  Guys are in charge of offense and defense.  Who has superior tactical skill?  Who has superior strength?  The way men and women are programmed is neither good nor bad, it just works.  It is what it is.  None of this is judgmental.

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Women are chameleons by nature. How else do you form group cooperation if you are combative or competing?  No, you form the same thinking as the group ( the competition with women is completely Machiavellian and beyond the comprehension of mere males, and is to see who leads forming  the consensus.  She then makes a good mate for the alpha male, either helping the husband advance or showcasing her talents to a prospective mate ).   When you are a chameleon, you blend in with whatever group you are in.  Logic has no place here.

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Women have evolved their survival traits by going along to get along.  This is true in the tribe, with a mate, or with a once enemy tribe.  She does what is good for her current group, what helps her husband or what helps the group that kidnapped her and made her one of them.  All that post-apocalypse fiction out there that is so focused on differentiating good from evil, showcasing how bikers and escaped inmates rape women as a career or entertainment, completely lose sight of any history not approved by His Holiness.  No, rape isn’t okay.  Yes, it was normal and will be again.  War brides were so normal women evolved to deal with forced relocation.

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Which, logically, is little different than arranged marriages ( except the latter has civilizing lipstick applied to the pig ).  Look, I don’t try to excuse or condone or encourage poor behavior.  I merely try to point out that you must deal with what will be rather than what you want to be.  ANY tribe has illogical customs that are irrational but work to ensure the tribes survival.  Religion is a tribe.  A LOT of what religions do is NOT because of words from God but are rather politics.  Don’t let church doctrine blind you to reality.  And, please, be real, you need to be true to God, not to his earthly representatives.  The church might claim biblical infallibility but they might also be lying about it.  Not convinced?  Priests and choir boys.  ‘Nuff said.

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Now, since women will tell anyone what they want to hear, to protect themselves, modern romance marriages STILL look a lot like being a war bride, as far as brain programming is concerned, to the female.  You like to eat the brains of your enemy?  YUM!  You think this full body fabric makes me look sexy?  Hmmmm, it kind of IS turning me on, too!  You think the world is ending?  I’ve noticed that too!  Now, if none of this sounds familiar, it is because you have a terrible wife.  A good wife cooperates and seeks consensus.  If she is in open rebellion against you, your marriage is doomed.

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Before, I’ve said that if the wife keeps refusing you sex you might as well get divorced now because she despises your very being ( I’ve been there, believe me ).  If your wife likes sex with you, it isn’t because your junk is of magnanimous girth.  It is because she has accepted you as a mate and has switched her brain programming.  The same technique that drives her wild today will repulse and sicken her if she then rejects you.  Really, that orgasm is all in her head.  If you are worthy, if you are accepted, you then turn her on.  The same goes for all other aspects.

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Here is a fun filled fact.  A women will actually see her sexual attraction influenced by her Time Of The Month.  The less satisfied she is with her partner, the more she has hormonal flares attracting her to a more evolutionary suitable mate.  Yes, they’ve done studies.  If you know when the wife is on her period, and she is less attracted to you then and is “out with her friends” a lot at that time, she could be boning a more alpha male.  Not her fault, it’s the brain chemistry.  This allows her, historically, to keep her provider while still trading up on her offspring.

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When a female tells her mate what he wants to hear, it isn’t manipulation or incongruous.  She really believes it ( just like a guy really honest injun loves the gal he is allowed to bed ).  She doesn’t mean it, but she believes it.  Nothing wrong with that, and it might actually make it easier for the female to accept the collapse when it comes ( the guy has logically accepted the end, but not emotionally ).  Just don’t confuse your ability to convince your mate when you are just riding the coat tails of natural programming.

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